Love your home again!

Have you ever invited a friend over and just before they arrived, you saw what they will see (dusty shelves, overflowing with books, papers, piles of laundry clean and dirty etc. etc.) and felt pre-embarrased? So, you spent the next however many minutes before your friend arrived to stuff things in a room whose door you can close or in drawers/closets/behind the sofa… in other words, wherever. Now you hate your home and everything in it. You feel like all your stuff is old, crappy and you just want to throw it all out. Your home is not giving you energy, but sucking it out of you.

So what do you do? You can throw everything out, sure.  If that is not an option, here is another strategy and I think it is kind of a trick but I also think it is possible this will help some people love their home again when all else has failed.

Switch your furniture. Create a new sitting arangement in your living room. Move your desk to where your dresser is and your dresser to where your desk used to be.  Whatever!  Just move some stuff.  It will help you see your life through your possessions with new eyes. And it is more fun to think "I'm rearranging my furniture" than "I'm going to clean up this #*@$ mess!".

Don't get too fancy.  Switch one end table in the living room with your bedside table. That will force you to transfer those items and you'll notice if those things that have been living there deserve to remain and if nothing else, you'll be reminded of what you've been sleeping next to for the last few years. 

So, how do you keep from getting too overwhelmed?

Remember that this is a strategy to create energy and lift your 'organizing metabolism'.  It is not meant to be a whole organizing day. When you get in this place of hating your stuff and hating your home all you need focus on is to get a little energy. So maybe all you do is put everything back in your "new" bedside table without purging.  That's OK.  The point is to feel different about your space and see new possibilities.

The other day I moved around the stuff in my bedroom.  What energy it created!  I walk into my bedroom now and just love it.  My cat loves it too. She now has all these new nooks and crannies to hunt her favorite mouse.

 Now go out and enjoy the perfect fall day!

(Writer's note: I hate searching for photos that "go" with my posts or are inspirational. Hate it!  and so much time wasted because what a rabbit hole is google images!   But, I do love looking through National Geographics "photo of the day" on their website! No, these photos won't "go" with my post, but hopefully you'll enjoy them anyway. If you love my photos and wonder where i got them from, now you know.)

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YOU decide

When you face your organizing options remember this:  You need to decide.  You need to decide  how much of this thing (be it sponges, magazine subscriptions, shoes) do I need for my life work for me?

How does this work strategy for me?  Well, I look at my space, time and effort.  How much space do I have?  How much time do I have to enjoy these things?  How much effort am I willing to put into maintaining these items in this space?

Do you have a spacious pantry or a "Costco" closet?  Well, then go shopping!  Get that case of paper towels… you have the room! Or, do you have a galley kitchen with just enough space for a few days worth of food? This is more my situation.  I shop at Costco though too.  How do I manage that?  I go with a friend and we split most items. The reality is that no matter what your situation, you have to acknowledge it, then construct a system that works within your reality.  Dang!  that sounds tough.  It is and then it isn't. At first, you may feel you should buy a case of paper towels at Costco, "It's so much more economical!" Or another pair of shoes "I deserve them".  That may be true.  But that decision then makes it so you are tripping over that case of paper towels for a month or more while you use them up or you now have a pile of shoes on the floor of your closet so you can't even see all the great shoes you actually have.  When you work within your space "reality", things fit where there is room, your home is enjoyable to live in and you have space for everything you need.

Do you have a full time job? Kids? Volunteer 3 nights a week?  All these things take up a lot of time and how much is left over is precious. Make sure what you bring into your home not only makes your life better but that the time it takes to maintain these items is worth it.

Again, your time is your greatest personal asset. How will you spend it? You make that choice everyday whether you are aware or not. So why not  be aware and make sure you time is spent in your best way?

 

 

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My 5 part organizing Methodology

beauty in order

There are as many ways to organize as there are organizers.  The trick is to find that organizer who is compatible with you. The way I organize is as holistic as is appropriate for each client and project. Each of these steps is designed to build on the part before.  Hopefully this helps you envision what a session with me will look like.

  1) Know where you’re going.

This means that both my client and I know where we are going and that we are going there together.  We have the same goals and direction.  During my assessment of all my new projects, I take notes, listen and notice what is going on both verbally and non-verbally.  I am focusing on the client, what their frustrations are and what problems they need solved.  This doesn’t always get said clearly.  Often, a throw away comment will stick with me. When I get home and start writing the assessment, that comment will come back to me and I will realize the importance of it within the context of the client’s goals.

  2) Strategize Your Actions

What is the actual plan?  We can talk goals and dreams but without a real plan and strategy to get there the goals are meaningless.  In my assessment I lay out what the goals are and then a step by step guide to get us to that goal.  I send this to all my clients before our first work session so that they can read it and have the time to agree or disagree with me. Often the client and I will assess the project at the end of each session to make sure we are on track with our goals.

3) Transfer of Skills

Part of my job as an organizer is to help my client develop as many organizational skills as they want. I let them know why I am choosing to do what I am doing, whether it is putting all the canned goods together or labeling a file with a certain name.  Organizing and system setup happens together.  The client and I discuss the benefits and reasons so when the job is finished they understand the reasoning behind the systems we have set up. 

  4) Customize Your Environment

Of course, setting up systems that don’t make sense for a client is setting them up for failure.    Setting up systems that work for each individual is a task we accomplish as we organize your space.  We keep in mind what you need, want and enjoy and make sure the systems reflect your preferences, habits and goals.

  5) Master Your Psychology

Why are you disorganized?  It could be your job is overwhelming and you are exhausted by days end.  It might be that you grew up in a disorganized home and don’t know how to organize.  It could be growing up with a fear of lack so you feel everything has a use, even if it is “someday”.  This is a sensitive topic and it is something I leave up to each client to tackle. Whatever the reason, we can choose to look at the reasons and understand what is so you can move beyond it. 

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Rebuilding Together San Francisco

I am participating in a new volunteer project this year.  Rebuilding Together San Francisco.  
"Rebuilding Together San Francisco provides free repair and renovation programs for low-income, elderly and disabled San Franciscans and for nonprofit and community facilities. Our programs address basic living, life event and quality of life needs of homeowners and the people served by the facilities with which we work. The work we do creates safer environments and makes it possible for people to live independently for a longer time in their own homes."  (From website – Rebuildingtogethersf.org)
 

I did my first site visit last week, meeting with the homeowner as well as 5 others leading the project.
What makes this so exciting to me is that RTSF is consciencly working with Professional Organizers, to make the project scope encompass a larger portion of each home/community center.  I am going to help put together a kitchen after receiving new cabinets as well as reorganize a bedroom and a living room.  Including  the work of professional organizers will round out the services RTSF offers.

I am so excited to be working with them, they have been enormously supportive!  
I will keep you posted on all our progress leading up to April 30th, the official rebuilding day.

Fun note:  RTSF started in 1989, in response to the Loma Prieta Earthquake.

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Your organizing Style

I often get asked "Is there just one way to organize?" 
Often, there is a critical undertone to this question.  Like "I've tried to be organized but it still hasn't happened."
Or, " I feel badly because I read one book and tried what they suggested and it didn't work".

My answer is always "There is no one way to be organized.  The way to be successful in organizing is to find out what your style is". 

How do you do this?

Ask yourself some questions.
What are your habits?
When you walk in the front door each evening, where do you put your keys?  Mail?
If you have a lovely table for your purse, keys and mail but it doesn't get used because it isn't in your "coming home" path it is time to move it or retire that table for another use and put something in your path that fits in the space.

Are you a "need to see it" person or a "out of sight to be able to function" person?
Do you feel everything needs to look pretty? and then feel like a failure when you see piles around your desk?
Don't.  If this is how your study should look for you to accomplish what you need to, then it is what it should look like. 

Make sure your files are labeled with words that make sense to you.  If the term "Oakland hotspots" doesn't make sense to you, what does?  When you are holding a piece of paper in your hand ask yourself "Why/when would I look at this paper again?"  Is it because you want to get ideas for a fun weekend in Oakland with out of town guests?  Then labeling it "Weekend Fun, Oakland" might work better. 

The last thing I would say is that no matter what your style might be, everyone needs to spend time figuring out a home for each kind of thing that is important to you.  If you send a lot of gifts around the holidays and you save boxes throughout the year then, instead of cramming boxes into the corners of your bookshelves, closets and under your desk, I suggest you have one storage box you keep in the garage.  This way you will know how much you have and when you can stop saving.

The ultimate goal of having an organized home and life, in my opinion, is that what is physically around you is what helps you accomplish whatever it is you want in life. 
So what does an organized home look like?  Any way you want.

So, if occasionally having to step around a pile of papers truly is in keeping with your perfect life, well,  I won't argue with you. 
And, if you look around and don't recongize who you have become, well, I can help with that!
 

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Wastefulness of Decluttering

I subscribe to just a few blogs.  I must love them very much if they are to be put into my email inbox mulitiple times a week.

This here Blog is one of them: Zen Habits

 

I'm giving you a link to this blog about the wastefulness of decluttering because, although I believe in every single word and I talk about these priciples to anyone who will listen, I didn't have the great fortune of writing it.  Maybe next time!

 

 

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Emily’s Organizing Tips part 2

Rule #4:  Like with Like.  A classic!  Even the most disorganized person recites this for me and for good reason.  If you have ever looked for a bandaid and just know you bought a package not that long ago but can't find it you understand the wisdom of this rule.  One of the basic reasons we organize is to save time.  If all your bandaids (bills, candles, gift bags etc etc…) are in the same place you will save time and money knowing you only need to look in one place for your supply.  Listen people!  one place = more time!  more $$!

like with like

Rule #5: Sometimes cheap is too expensive.  Buy items to last.  I do love the dollar store for some things but when it counts, buy quality over quantity.  It is better to buy one $80 coffee maker then 2 $40 ones.  You will most likely get a better cup of coffee but you will save space in the landfill too.  
Real Estate in the Bay Area is some of the most expensive in the country.  Why do we pay hundreds of dollars per square foot storing boxes of outdated college textbooks?  Keeping your life (and things) current is good practice for allowing new, exciting things into your life.  
Here are a few ideas for all of you to keep a good flow of energy through your home.  
www.freecycle.org – A neighborhood driven internet based site that allows you to post what you need to get rid of for free! And, you can request a need and there is a good chance that someone in your neighborhood has it and wants to get rid of it…also for free.  Nice.
www.earth911.org – Just type in what you want to  recycle and your zip code and they give you the place you need to take it.  easy!  I had a question about recycling incandenscent light bulbs but there was no information on the site.  I emailed someone and, no kidding, got this great detailed response about why the old school, incandescent light bulbs are not able to be recycled.  Personalized service!

Garage sale – Get rid of loads of stuff at once.  Remember that bargining is in the spirit of the garage sale.  You may remember how you spent $80 on a set of utencils but the customer doesn't know that and most importantly, doesn't care.  All they know is that they are at a garage sale and they want a bargin.  Give it to them.  
college kids – What college kid doesn't need a microwave, coffee mugs and milk crates.
neighborhood listserv – You can find out if your neighborhood has one by going to your city website.  I belong to 2 since I live right on the border.  Postings include, free plant cuttings, neighborhood meetings, newsletters from our mayor and council people, events, lost pets (and found again!), suspicious behavior and on and on.  
friends – I just attended a clothing swap with 12 other women and got rid of 8 shirts!  All that doesn't get chosen goes to Good Will or Salvation Army.  
family – My parents just bought new appliances and since their old stove and dishwasher work great, my parents, who love a good road trip, are going to load them into their van and drive from Michigan to California!  I get "new" appliances and someone will get my older appliances (still good) from Urban Ore.  Yes, this is pretty extreme but it works for us.

Rule #6:  You need to maintain.  sigh.  This is possibly a sad reality for many including me.  You may feel the reason you are disorganized is because you have no time or energy at the end of the day.  You dig dinner out of grocery bags because you don't  even have time to put them in the cupboards.

This may be the time to re-evaluate your life.  Is everything you do important and necessary to you?   Does what you do each day reflect your life goals?  Or, is it simply time to engage your family, your mate, your children in helping you stay organized?  Simple things like having your 10 year old sort laundry or put away the groceries are useful skills you may take for granted but actually need to be taught.  

Part of the overwhelming nature of our lives is sometimes your household just has too much information coming in and it is hard and unrewarding to maintain when, each week, piles of store magazines, credit card offers etc come in.  You can stop this.  Here are 3 sites to stop the mail that never gets opened anyway.
www.catalogchoice.org
www.dmachoice.org
www.optoutprescreen.com

Let me know if these rules are helpful to you and what are some of your favorite rules for staying organized?

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Moving Resource

When I find a company I have used and have had a positivie experience, I put them on my resource page.  But first I like to blog about them!

www.usedcardboardboxes.com

I used them once for a moving job I got at the last minute and truly needed the boxes in 2 days.  
I ordered them Monday afternoon and they were delivered to my door Wednesday morning.  Big relief!  Did not want to make a trip to a local moving place that morning.  
I also compared their pricing and they are much cheaper than just buying boxes at a local place.  Also, they deliver to your door!  I LOVE that.  

Happy Moving everyone!

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Emily’s Organizing Rules: Part 1

Emily's Organizing Rules

So, I was just talking to my good friend Tracy the other day.  She's moving for the 2nd time in as many years.  Getting excited to move again is just about impossible for most folks, but Tracy has managed to almost get there.

It helps that she made up a bunch of organizing rules that she sort of learned the hard way during her first move.  Moving can be like a slow death and Tracy just realized that keeping all sorts of things for "someday" projects just wasn't working out.  Out of this one thought came rules for everyday life that would keep her from going back to saving most everything.  Being that I am an organizer I was excited and we ended up sharing our favorite rules. She gave me permission to share her rules as part of this blog.

 Here is my first post of the combined wisdom of both me and Tracy, in no particular order. 

Rule #1:  You get the room you have.   Seems sorta confusing, but I like my rules short and snappy.  Here's what it means.  Say you have 2 bookcases in your home and there is no room for another.  According to my rule you get to have as many books as can fit into those 2 bookcases. This rule is about you defining what is important in your life.  So, if you just have to have 3 bookcases full of books, by all means, have at it.  All I am saying is that before you have a bookcase worth of books lying around your home you need look around, decide what is less important than the books and get rid of it before you start buying books.  This might be my favorite rule by the way.

Rule #2: Use according to purpose.  For this rule, let's move into the dining room/eating area of your home.  We all have a table that was bought with the intention that you, your family and loved ones would eat on it.  If you're not careful it ends up being the mail, coat, keys, purse and junk holder.  I have included a picture of my dining room table and it always looks just like this.  This isn't bragging because the rest of my home doesn't always look this nice and calm.  This is me saying that one area of my home will always be ready for me to use immediately.  It relaxes me to look at my clear table when I walk by (no matter what the rest of my home looks like and maybe especially when the rest of my place is a sty) and it relaxes me when I set my plate down for dinner.  It helps that I have a dedicated place for my purse and keys by my front door.  My desk gets the mail and the front closet gets my coat.  No matter how organized you want to be, if you don't have a place for these items all bets are off.  Which brings me to the last rule of the day…

Emily's Dining Room Table

Rule #3: Everything needs a home.  This is pretty self explanitory (right?). 
This rule is about time, energy and what you want to do with yours.  Do you want to look for your keys everyday?  Do you want to eat on top of a pile of newspapers at dinner time?
Find a home for your things.  Put them in that home every single time.  For instance, I have room for 3 pairs of shoes near my front door.  If I decide to wear a pair that don't live there, when I am done wearing them, I put them by the stairs and the next time I go to my bedroom closet I bring them with me. It does take a little thought but it's your home, your castle!  You will be rewarded.   Over a year you will save weeks of time.  That's right.  weeks

 

What rules help you keep your home the way you want?

I have a few more rules coming next week,  and they are just as fun! 

stay tuned.

 

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Organizing after a loved ones death

My Grandfather died a few years ago and my family was fortuate enough that every single child and grandchild was able to attend the service in South Dakota.
His wife, my grandmother, had decided to move to an assisted living home after his death. The house was already sold so our family needed to remove everything my
grandmother didn't want in just a couple of days.
I think it was my mom (although I could be wrong here) who suggested we hold a sort of private auction for the remaining items in my grandparents home.
How it worked was each person was given a set of different colored stickers.  Every child and grandchild would walk around the house, open drawers and closets and put a
sticker on any item they wanted.  If more than one sticker ended up an item, an auction was held.  Each person trying to outbid the other for what they wanted.  
I think it lead to the most expensive coo coo clock ever!
When each person was done they would look at each item, decide on the value, and put the total amount of cash in a coffee can.  The cash, of course, went to my grandmother.
This afternoon will be remembered by me as a sweet end to 2 lives with the incredible benefit of getting to reminice with one of them.  My cousins and I would laugh, be puzzled, be shocked and wonder at the things my grandparents had saved in the 60+ years they were married.  There was such sweetness because my grandmother was able to sit in the middle of it all and tell us about the items we brought to her attention.  She was also able to laugh, be puzzled and be shocked at the things we chose to keep in the family!
I am proud that each member of my family was able to participate in a day full of generosity, memories and laughter.
                                                                                                                                                                       

Grandma's Knome

 

Cracker Jack Prizes
Two of the items I chose are pictured here.  A little garden knome and some cracker jack prizes from the 1950's (I am told) that I framed.  Some of my favorite art in my home!

How have you been able to make a transition in your life with some grace and laughter?  

There are never enough ideas!

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